Do you have trouble losing weight?
Do you lose weight only to put it back on again?
Do you lack confidence about how you look?
Do you feel frustrated and disappointed with yourself?
Do you feel you’ve failed in this aspect of your life?
If you can relate to any of the above, then the chances are that you have not addressed the fundamental issues when it comes to ‘losing weight’. You have probably put your time, energy and focus on the wrong things. You probably don’t know how to change what is in your subconscious mind to support you and your goals.
The Three Major Mistakes to Avoid
There are three major mistakes that you must avoid if you wish to overcome your weight problems.
Mistake #1 Thinking It’s about Losing Weight
Mistake #2 Thinking It’s About Diets and Exercise
Mistake #3 Thinking It’s About What You Do
Some of you reading this may think, ‘How can these be mistakes! They are exactly what I do.’
Let me explain in more detail.
Mistake #1 Thinking It’s About Losing Weight
Let’s say you carry excess weight. You think you should or must lose weight. You think it’s about losing weight.
Some people think and speak about ‘losing weight’ all the time. But this is a huge mistake.
Losing weight is an action that is predominantly motivated by negative feelings. In cultures that honour health more than weight this concept is difficult for people to grasp. In coaching, it is considered as an ‘away’ action from what you wish to achieve. It is the opposite of a ‘toward’ action. ‘Toward’ is a term that describes a value-driven concept that determines decisions and actions. Such values, decisions and actions honour life, health, growth and fulfilment.
Losing weight is an ‘away’ and negative action. The underlining beliefs would be negative too, like frustration, embarrassment, low self esteem, shame or self loathing. And the more time and effort you put into an ‘away’ motivated action, the further you would be from the actual thing you want.
Essentially when you try to lose weight, your focus is on something you don’t want, which is the excess weight. You send a very powerful message to your subconscious mind. In essence it says excess weight, embarrassment, frustration, low self esteem, shame, and self loathing. The subconscious mind is pure power without direction. Any message or deep beliefs it receives from you on a consistent basis, it goes out to seek evidence.
Another huge mistake you make with your subconscious mind is that you tell it to lose. The subconscious mind has a habit of getting back anything it loses. It prefers a healthy gain rather than a negative loss. Any weight you lose, the subconscious mind is quietly determined to get it back. Before you know it, your weight is back on.
Mistake #2 Thinking It’s About Diets and Exercise
Similar to thinking it’s about losing weight, you think it’s about weight loss diets and exercise. Diets and exercise play an important role, but it is not the most crucial role. If your motivation is to lose weight, then diets and exercise are actions that support ‘losing weight’. You may follow a diet strictly and go to the gym. You man even get a personal trainer. You lose the weight. But sometime later you find the weight back on your body in all those unwanted areas. If you are a normal human being, you would feel disappointed and defeated.
Can you relate to this?
If you lose weight and put it back on again, you would feel disillusioned. You may feel it’s almost not worth trying again. All that exercising and all the special dieting seem to just go down the drain. You either deny yourself the food you love or you eat it and then feel guilty. Worse still, you just give up altogether and eat whatever you like and don’t bother to exercise. And you put up with your excess weight and possibly some health problems too.
The strong negative feelings are then stored in your subconscious mind. The mind makes a negative association with diets and exercise. In turn it will help you produce another round of negative results. The formula in your subconscious mind looks like this:
##Lose Weight = Diets and Exercises = Weight Loss and Put It Back On Again##
Can you see how you are fighting a losing battle?! Can you see how you must change this pattern of behaviour?!
Mistake #3 Thinking It’s About What You Do
If you think it’s only about what you do, then you can’t possibly create lasting change. The doing may temporarily help you lose weight, but you put it back on again.
It’s not about the doing if you wish to create fundamental changes. All lasting changes begin with consciousness change. Without consciousness change, you would be working with the old set of values and beliefs that give you the same results.
It is more about being if you wish to lose weight and keep it off.
Infinite Health and Youth Power
You have the power within you to gain a healthy weight and keep it that way. Your mind can be moulded to help you regulate your weight. In fact, you have unlimited mental power to achieve more than a trim body. That power, which is available to you and me, enables you to reverse the aging process. You can enjoy radiant health and lasting youth. A trim figure is just a by-product.
When you think it’s about losing weight, life challenges you towards something infinitely better. Life wants you to have the best. Life wants you to take your eyes off your weight and enjoy radiant health and lasting youth. When you have something as exciting as radiant health and lasting youth, why would you want to worry about losing weight?!
If you can vaguely grasp this concept of infinite health and youth power, you would want to feel so grateful. And what awaits you will be beautiful and magnificent beyond your imagination.
What Are the Three Things You Must Do
The three things you must do are being related. They involve the mind. They involve both the conscious and subconscious mind. They connect you with the infinite power of health and lasting youth. They put you on the path of radiant health and lasting youth as well as helping you trim down and keep it that way.
Must-do #1 Change your consciousness
First, you will achieve lasting results if you put your energy into changing your consciousness, values and beliefs before you put effort into dieting and exercising. You will ‘lose weight’ and keep it off if you cement new values and beliefs in your consciousness. This will require a specific process to be gone through.
It takes time. You may find you’ll go through a few stages: changing consciousness, resistance, subconscious re-adjustment, healing, cementing new consciousness, new beliefs, a new relationship with food, a sustainable exercise routine, trimming down, staying trim and health. It is worth taking the time to get lasting results.
You may need professional support for this process. For example, during the stage of subconscious re-adjustment, old beliefs and excuses will come up. If you have support, you will know how to get through this stage to move to the next stage of seeing results.
Must-do #2 Heal
Second, honour health and heal. Health naturally includes a healthy weight. The process of ‘losing weight’ is a process of healing as well. As you heal, you gain heal-th.
The process of healing is an internal, mind process. Your desire to have radiant health will trigger the emotional healing process. One by one, emotional issues will surface. You will recognise them, make peace with them and feel relief. Each time this happens, you purify your mind and body. You will become lighter and lighter. You will enjoy abundant health, energy and a sustainable healthy weight.
Must-do #3 Visualise lasting results
Third, seeing the outcome and lasting change in your mind plays an important role. Your time and energy should be given to the vision of a healthy and trim you. This is a way of cementing a healthy vision in your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is your loyal servant.
When this infinite power is sufficiently activated, you will just know what action to take. You will find yourself unstoppable with your actions, whether it’s exercising or eating right.
Moving Forward
If you have made one or more of the above three mistakes, it doesn’t matter. What matters is whether you are prepared to do something different. You’ve probably heard that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expect a different result. If you are like me, you would be among the majority who’ve been insane at some stage with one thing or another! It is a good thing to acknowledge and accept it.
With that lies the opportunity for a new, improved way of thinking and taking your life to the next level. Think health and lasting youth. Love and appreciate your body. Enjoy lasting health, youth and a trim figure.
Jennifer Jianjun Wang (PhD)
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